You probably know already that I’m not really the guy that could give a strong advice on to a relationship.
At this point of my life, I feel that relationships are simply not for me.
Maybe I’m just scared.
Maybe I’m not mature enough.
Anyway, I still believe that a healthy and stable relationship it’s a little bit difficult to maintain, especially when you have no idea what you’re doing.
I’ve always lived my life with passion and I always tried to make sure that every moment spent with me will last into an unforgettable memory. Even if it was just a one night stand.
But could I do this for a lifetime?
Shit, this freaks me out. I might not be able to do it. I don’t know about you, but I refuse to exist in a relationship where the passion fades away.
That’s how I see relationships and especially this thing you call “love”, a burning flame that will eventually die.
The way she is looking at you, the desire in her eyes, her heartbeat raising when you start touching her, how she lose her mind when you kiss her … everything will eventually die and I can’t stand that.
I refuse to become unable to make her feel different. I prefer to live forever in her mind as a fantasy rather than becoming a boring presence in her life.
But that’s just me, that’s how I see relationships: two people who spend their life together for long enough to become a “routine”. Two people scared with the idea of being alone, who eventually forget what bring them together in the first place.
I don’t say that there are not happy lasting relationships. I want to experience that, I want to meet that woman I could love for a lifetime. But I see too many of my people sacrificing their own happiness to maintain a blank relationship supported by a pillar built on fake smiles, common bills, and boring sex.
That’s not for me.
If you hope that time will change something, you’re probably wrong. It will only help you get used to it.
Why do I believe that people end up in there?
Because most men see the women in their life as a goal. Once they achieved it they totally forget about her.
Gentleman, she dedicated her whole life to you. Then fucking make it count. Make sure that the rest of her life will never be the same. It’s your job to make the passion last. Her happiness is your priority. You’ve asked for it, then deal with it.
She is not there to do your laundry or to cook for you. She saw something within you and she wants more of that. I agree that love is mutual but remember women will never forget why she chooses you in the first place.
For her, you are like a fantasy that came true. You should act like one. Don’t let the passion die, don’t let the intensity fade away.
Make every moment count. Never, ever let the flame within her heart disappear. Make her want you more and more every time she sees you. If she chooses to spend the rest of her life together with you, then better make it worth.
Gentleman, remember that it is never about the time but the intensity of the feelings.